By: Rob Muniz
First of all Happy New Year, and what a year it’s been! My daughter turned 1 and is walking around everywhere (trying to run) like crazy, school is moving right along, last and certainly not least, I am so very grateful and fortunate to have joined the Happy Sweaty Life brand!! BIG THANK YOU to everyone for your support. It’s been a very humbling experience. I’m a big believer in surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people. My family and I cannot think of a better community. I owe so much of this to being patient keeping a positive mindset.
I’ve been sharing a lot lately about the importance of a positive mindset. I am not yet an expert on this subject, but I’ve seen and felt so much benefit through my process, I felt I had to share with you. Others sharing their experiences has helped me in the past, so I hope to do the same anytime I share information.
I have been working on being more positive and optimistic for quite some time now, but 2019 was the year I decided to take action and take more control of my own mindset. Trust me, there is still plenty of room for improvement, but I have learned a lot. I’ve always considered myself a generally happy person, but on the other side of that I’ve always been my harshest critic. Whether it was something said by someone else or just a thought of self-doubt, I would spend a long time hanging onto negative energy and letting it control my entire day or week. Who can relate?? This type of mindset had caused me to be overly critical and judgmental towards myself, and at times others, which made for a lot of stressful days and self-doubt. I believe energies are contagious, so I know others felt it too.
I won’t go as far as saying those attributes had made me an unhappy person overall, but I now realize how much that negative way of thinking actually affected my personal and professional relationships. I now understand how much time was wasted CHOOSING to hang on to a negative mindset. Most importantly for me, I understand hanging on to negative energy takes away from my personal progress and my passion for helping others. There is no reason to keep it around.
For me, a large part of being a more mindful and positive is having more compassion for others. The way I see it, individuals who go out of their way to negatively affect someone else is most likely because they’re actually unhappy with themselves for one reason or another. Not only that, but how am I supposed to evolve and be confident in helping others if I’m giving someone control over my mindset by allowing their actions to dictate my entire day??!
My wife, who has been my biggest influence in taking this step for myself, is Buddhist. She has always spoken about the importance of having compassion for others. I always understood the concept and supported her practice, but never actually took it upon myself to explore that way of thinking. Having more compassion and practicing empathy has had an enormous positive affect on me and those around me. I hold myself more accountable and I wake up feeling super thankful everyday. My thirst for knowledge has increased along with my energy levels and even my own workouts are better!!
The downside of compassion for others, is realizing how unhappy some people actually are, but the upside has also made me 100 times more thankful for what I have and where I am. Sure there are still stressful moments and that is life, but I don’t allow those moments to go much further than what they are….moments in time. Certain situations are more difficult than others, but that’s the way it goes sometimes and that’s why I know I can still improve. So while I cant say I have this mindset control totally mastered, I can honestly tell you that I am the happiest I have ever been. I am a better husband and father for it. All of this has helped me open my mind and learn so much more!! I’m excited for what’s to come!!
For the year 2020 I will continue this journey but I am making it my INTENTION to practice meditation. I’ve spoken with others and have done plenty of research. I respect meditation and believe in the benefits, but it’s time to take action. Stay tuned and have a happy healthy new year!!